Defeating The Lies

June 1, 2020

March 25, 2020

We are in a major crisis across the country, and around the world. The COVID-19 virus has shut down many businesses, put people our work, caused panic and hoarding, and instilled fear in many people.

I constantly declare “Quarantine does not have to lead to Total Isolation – Stay Connected”.

How are you staying connected and keeping the volume of negative self-talk at a minimum?

I have created a private Facebook group titled “Defeating the Lies of Negative Self-Talk”. It is just getting started. Would you like to join?

March 15, 2020

It’s a hard distinction, so many times I feel they overlap. However, the truth is that there is a significant difference between guilt and shame.

Guilt says I did something wrong.

Shame says I am bad because I did something wrong.

Guilt refers to the action, shame to the person. As I stated at the beginning, sometimes I feel they overlap. It is easy to let the volume of negative self-talk rise in the blame game.

I must take a step back and remind myself of the difference.

  • I am not bad; I made a bad choice.
  • I made a mistake; that doesn’t mean I am a mistake.

How do you respond to guilt and shame? How do you separate the two?

January 14, 2020

The next DEFEATING THE LIES OF NEGATIVE SELF-TALK Workshop will be an online event Monday nights in February.

This 4-week online event for women explores the LIES we tell ourselves and offers creative ways to speak truth to those lies.
A Christian perspective will be used in seeking our truth.

This event is for women.

We will meet online for 1 hour each week in February. A webcam is recommended.

Through the 4-week series you will:
Learn to recognize sabotaging self-talk
Discover the intent of the lies
Find God’s truth
Develop creative ways to speak this truth into your life

You will receive PDF documents to help you work through the information.

You will be invited to join a private Facebook group with current, past and future participants of these events.

ALSO, you will be given to opportunity to schedule two 30-minute one-on-one coaching sessions with me to help you further establish a personal plan to defeat the lies of negative self-talk.

What could you do with your life if you turned off the voices of negative self-talk?

November 1, 2019

The first 4-week LIES Workshop has completed. This group of women took the time to look at the lies they tell themselves.

Sometimes the lie is a surprise, sometimes it is a well-known voice.

It is not easy to face down these lies, but first you must change your perspective and become aware of them.

What lies are holding you back?

Are you ready to face them?

Contact me for more details. It’s time to replace those lies with God’s truth.

What do you see when you look in the mirror?

Do  you hear voices? Those voices that say ‘you are not pretty enough’, ‘you are a failure’, ‘you really messed up that last presentation’.  For me, it is that and so much more.

Finally one day I had to look at those big brown eyes starring back at me and say STOP!!

As I struggled to defeat those negative voices I found some ways to personalize them, to face them down, and to speak truth to the lie.

I wish I could say it was something I did once and it was done. But it isn’t.  It is a process.  A process that begins with one step. A process that continues today.

I want to share some of this process with you and help you find your style to personalize the lies, face them down, and defeat them – one by one. I have created a acronym of the word LIES to help guide you through the process.

It is my goal to help you explore within yourself some of the Negative Self-Talk Lies you express, and begin the process of replacing those personal lies with GOD’s TRUTH.

Are you ready to consider the possibility of accepting yourself as God sees you?  Contact me via email (info at and/or sign up to receive email notifications of the next workshop offerings.

What do the Voices in Your Head say to you? Are you ready to ditch the LIES and accept GOD’S TRUTH?

“I Don’t Talk Negatively to Myself”