Category Archives: Women’s Issues

My Word for 2020 is….

Do you choose a “word of the year”?

I started doing this several years ago.  In 2018 my word was ‘unstoppable’.  It reminded me to keep moving toward my dreams, and that the only one to stop me from pursuing it would be me.  

For 2019 a short phrase was my focus “stay the course”.  I was reminded to keep moving forward on the course God has set me on (Psalm 119:1).  I do not yet know what is at the end of the path, but I know He is with me.

When I look at the year 2020, so many references to vision come to mind.  I argued with myself on the word ‘vision’ because I figure everyone will be using it.

Then I read Romans 12:3 “Be honest in your evaluation of yourself…”  Wow. I have been posting and teaching on stopping the lies of negative self-talk and replacing them with truth. God’s truth.

I am discouraged today, feeling down, telling myself so many lies. Writing this post reminds me I am doing exactly what I teach against.

The word “REFLECTION” came to mind.  I found a picture I use in some of my illustrations of a woman smiling at herself in the mirror.  I added the word REFLECTION at the top and wrote out Romans 12:3.

This is my word for 2020.  REFLECTION.  This year I am reminded to be honest in my evaluation of myself. I will reflect on who God says I am.

It is with this word I will conducting additional “Defeating the Lies of Negative Self-Talk” courses in-person and online.  It is with this word I will begin leading some “Boundaries” courses using material from Doctors Cloud and Townsend.  It is with this word I will be unstoppable, as I stay the course, and reflect honestly on God’s view of me.

I love how I can look back and see the progress God has made in me by reviewing past words.  Each one leads to the next step of my spiritual growth in Him.

What is your word for 2020? Where will it lead you? How can I help you?

When Those Around You Tell You ‘Do Not Go’

You have spent time preparing to step into your dream. You have saved, studied, and made the necessary arrangements to move forward.

Then you tell those around you, those whose opinion you respect, expecting to hear words of affirmation and congratulations, only to be told how wrong you are to pursue this.

How do you step past the negativity and into the unknown, with positive self-confidence?

Today on “Tea Time with CoachTA” I talk with Connie Menser of Full Supply Inc. We discuss that moment when she chose to leave her full time career to join the Navigators, and the path where that decision has led.

Journal Prompt, week 39

What do you see when you look in the mirror?

I battle the voices declaring who I am when I look in the mirror. Voices of negativity, of not being good enough, pretty enough, smart enough, loved.

Over time I began to look differently at that view. It was no longer my eyes, but God’s eyes looking back at me.

I am made in His image (Genesis 1:27), His handiwork (Ephesians 2:10). He knew me and loved me before I was created (Psalm 139:13-16). I am a child of God (1 John 3:1), a daughter of the King, a Princess!!

I smile when I put on my plastic $5 party store tiara. I am a princess! This simple item brings me back to child-like faith. I can set aside my tears and fears and fell wrapped in the arms of God. He loves me. I am beautiful. I am enough.

What do you see when you look in the mirror?

Who Is Telling You ‘No’?

I had the honor of interviewing Amanda Keleher this week. Amanda is a woman of strong vision, seeing what most people miss.

I met Amanda about a year and a half ago. I was immediately impressed. Despite being blind, this beautiful woman sees more than many around her.

Amanda is a courage coach, partnering with Christian women who are doing #allthethings, but still not living the abundant life God promised.

In this interview Amanda and I talk about the 3 people who tell women ‘no’ and some strategies for overcoming obstacles. You can find more about Amanda at her website vibrantvisioncoaching.com

Journal Prompt – week 38

The most difficult thing about being this age is

As the pastor was discussing the vision for the upcoming year, he mentioned things that younger people respond to. While discussing this with my husband on the way home I realized when I was younger there were things I wished the church would do that I could more easily respond to. Older people were saying ‘we have always done it this way’ or ‘they need to learn to accept things as they are’ and on and on. Here I am, decades later saying ‘but what about the people who are here now’ and ‘what about me’ and on and on.

When I look back, I see many changes in my life reflecting my age at the time.

Many changes have taken place in my life. I was a young mother of small children at one time. Today I am the grandmother of teenagers. Once I wore skirts above my knees, today I seldom wear a skirt. Once I would only wear my best outfit to church, today I wore jeans and sandals. Time change.

The most difficult thing I find about being this age (60 at the time of this writing) is accepting that I am this age. When I was younger, anyone this age was OLD! People this age were talking of retiring. Today, I look in the mirror and see someone who is no where near retirement; someone who still has so much life to live.

How did I get to be this age? I guess the more important question I need to consider after looking at the most difficult thing about being this age, is what am I going to do with my life – even at this age.

How about you? No matter your age, there are difficulties to consider. What are some of yours?

Make Up Self-Confidence

Last year, at a Fun Fabulous Female event with Delinda Layne, I met Kerrie O’Connor.

We have met together for coffee a few times, chatted on Facebook, and she has helped pump up my self-esteem.

I am not one to wear much make-up. A light foundation and maybe a dab of lipstick.

Kerrie spent some time showing me tips and tricks, and lipstick that stays on all day. Today we talk about about this, about how this little step helps to increase confidence and self-esteem, and a reminder to only apply what makes you feel good.

Listen in as we talk about increasing confidence and the subtle ways it shows.

Journal Prompt Week 33

I was recently asked a question and struggled with the answer. That seemed like a perfect journal prompt.

This week I wonder I challenge you to “Describe yourself in 15 words or less”

Describe yourself in 15 words or less

I started by looking at an identity statement I made years ago. “I am a citizen of heaven (Heb 13:14), straining toward what is ahead (Phil 3:13), bearing witness of Christ (John 1:7), awaiting His return (1 Cor 1:7).

If I take out the Scripture references, I am at 18 words. And I wonder, does that describe me? It is my ultimate goal, but am I there?

I am a woman trying desperately to turn off the voices of the lies of the world and listen to God’s truth. Well, that is 22 words.

I am a woman living to encourage others to find their best within themselves. Hmmmm, I wonder.

I will keep working on this. What are you coming up with for yourself? If you are comfortable doing so, share in the comments below. Or send me an email – TerryAnn at TerryAnnPorter dot com. I’d love to hear your thoughts.

I Didn’t Know It Was A Dream

“I didn’t know it was a dream.” That is what my friend Brenda said during our recent interview.

I met Brenda nearly 20 years ago. During this time we have walked with each other through miscellaneous highs and lows of life.

Today, Brenda has 2 local Tea Rooms and an Antique Mall. I sat down with her to discuss what fears she had to face and the courage it took to step out and into something she had mentioned in conversation for many years. She didn’t even realize it was a dream of hers.

Join me in the latest “Tea Time” video. This time you get more than just me talking. You get to hear from a woman who found the strength to seek out a ‘dream’.

Defeating the Lies of Negative Self-Talk

You are the person you talk to the most. How do you talk to yourself?

If your negative self-talk is ruling over you, join me tonight for a free webinar “Defeating the Lies of Negative Self-Talk”.

You will walk away with some tips and ideas to start to gain control over the negative words and replace them with God’s truth.

Are you ready to take the first steps?

FREE Webinar

Join me March 4 at 7:30p Central Time for a free webinar looking at “Defeating the Lies of Negative Self-Talk”

Details may be found at: https://www.facebook.com/events/2643192892361524/

or at https://www.eventbrite.com/e/defeating-the-lies-of-negative-self-talk-free-webinar-tickets-57228266285