Category Archives: Transition

Countdown to 60 – 7 days to go

This phrase has become a favorite of mine; spoken by the lovable character, Yoda of Star Wars.

When I hear someone say “I will try” I now hear “it’s not that important, I will play at it”.

Either you will do it or you will not. Trying is not a commitment. Doing is a commitment.

What are your goals? Will you try to reach them, or will you do what you need to reach them?

Perspective makes a difference.

Countdown to 60 – 13 days

Time flies as my 60th birthday gets even closer.

Go to my Facebook page (lifecoachTA) and comment on any of the Countdown to 60 posts to be entered in a drawing for a copy of both of my books. Even if you do not knit or crochet, the short devotionals are still relevant. (one entry per comment – one comment per post)

“I don’t talk negatively to myself”

After I hosted the first “Defeating the Lies of Negative Self-Talk” webinar, I spoke with a woman who participated. She said “I think what you are offering is great, but I don’t talk negatively to myself”.

I thanked her for participating. A week or so later we met up again. She said she couldn’t believe it. She didn’t think she talked negatively to herself, and just that day alone she caught herself 3 times! Her daughter was standing beside her and interjected with a few more time she hadn’t noticed. “I am now paying attention to what I say to myself.”

The first goal of the program is to start to recognize this within ourselves. It may take some time. Catch yourself one time. Make note of it. Don’t stress or fret over it. Notice it.

You cannot deal with it if you have not recognized it.

Watch your conversation this week – with others and with yourself.

Are you speaking to/about yourself in an manner you would speak to/about someone you love?

“Take captive every thought” – 2 Corinthians 10:5

Journal Prompt

Every TV show and movie has theme song. It tells a story.

What would be the theme song of your life?

Journal Prompt: Week 14

You are stronger than you think. This week look back. What is something you did simply because you believed you could?

40 Days to 60

As a Recovering People Pleaser, I must hold tight to these words.

50 days to 60

Today I am celebrating me. Why? Just because. No special reason, just because.

I was reading some posts on Facebook today about forgiveness. The hardest person to forgive, in my opinion and personal experience, is myself. I can forgive others, but I often find myself unforgivable – even for trivial incidents. I would make an innocent error into a large guilt event.

I felt I was to be like Jesus – perfect. If I failed perfection I was an unforgivable and terrible person. NOT TRUE. That is one of the lies I have worked hard to defeat. We are to reflect Jesus in our love of one another, not in our misperception of perfection.

As I reflect on who I am today I celebrate. With all my flaws, scars, and imperfections I am a child God. That makes me a Princess. I will put on my plastic tiara and remind myself of that. God accepts and forgives me. If He does, then who am I to hold on to my personal unforgiveness.

Today, I celebrate being me. What are you celebrating?

Journal Prompt – Week 11

Have you been working through the weekly journal prompts? It is not too late to start. You can jump in any time. If you missed a prompt, no problem. Skip that week or go back. It’s up to you. And remember,

This is just a prompt to lead you to personal reflection. If this prompt isn’t what you want to focus on, then journal whatever God has brought to your mind.

This week’s journal prompt is:

51 Days to 60

I don’t know where the time went, but in 51 days I will be 60 years old! Me and Barbie – almost twins 🙂

Looking back over my life I see a collage of events: some happy, some sad, some lonely, some exciting. All those events have led me to the person I am today.

There are times I want to linger on the mistakes of life and have a pity party. I have learned to step past that moment. Every decision I made was made with the information I had at the time. They say ‘hindsight is 20/20’ and that is true. I can look back and say what I shoulda, coulda, woulda done. That is a terrible thing to do to myself. I have details now I didn’t have then. And if I had them, I was in a different place of processing that information.

Shoulda, coulda, and woulda (and their variants) are not allowed in my vocabulary. I did such and such, now let the consequences and celebrations happen as I prepare to take the next step.

I live in the now. The past is gone. It helped to mold me, but it cannot hold me. Today is another day. And soon I will celebrate another year. It took a long time to accept ‘me’ but now I do – most of the time. God accepts me as I am, even knowing all the details I never shared with anyone. His grace has led me to this day, and will lead me through the upcoming days.

I am blessed by God – and no shoulda, coulda, woulda can change that.

Today I celebrate me. What are you celebrating today?

Defeating the Lies of Negative Self-Talk

You are the person you talk to the most. How do you talk to yourself?

If your negative self-talk is ruling over you, join me tonight for a free webinar “Defeating the Lies of Negative Self-Talk”.

You will walk away with some tips and ideas to start to gain control over the negative words and replace them with God’s truth.

Are you ready to take the first steps?