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After I hosted the first “Defeating the Lies of Negative Self-Talk” webinar, I spoke with a woman who participated. She said “I think what you are offering is great, but I don’t talk negatively to myself”.
I thanked her for participating. A week or so later we met up again. She said she couldn’t believe it. She didn’t think she talked negatively to herself, and just that day alone she caught herself 3 times! Her daughter was standing beside her and interjected with a few more time she hadn’t noticed. “I am now paying attention to what I say to myself.”
The first goal of the program is to start to recognize this within ourselves. It may take some time. Catch yourself one time. Make note of it. Don’t stress or fret over it. Notice it.
You cannot deal with it if you have not recognized it.
Watch your conversation this week – with others and with yourself.
Are you speaking to/about yourself in an manner you would speak to/about someone you love?
Today I am celebrating me. Why? Just because. No special reason, just because.
I was reading some posts on Facebook today about forgiveness. The hardest person to forgive, in my opinion and personal experience, is myself. I can forgive others, but I often find myself unforgivable – even for trivial incidents. I would make an innocent error into a large guilt event.
I felt I was to be like Jesus – perfect. If I failed perfection I was an unforgivable and terrible person. NOT TRUE. That is one of the lies I have worked hard to defeat. We are to reflect Jesus in our love of one another, not in our misperception of perfection.
As I reflect on who I am today I celebrate. With all my flaws, scars, and imperfections I am a child God. That makes me a Princess. I will put on my plastic tiara and remind myself of that. God accepts and forgives me. If He does, then who am I to hold on to my personal unforgiveness.
Today, I celebrate being me. What are you celebrating?
Have you been working through the weekly journal prompts? It is not too late to start. You can jump in any time. If you missed a prompt, no problem. Skip that week or go back. It’s up to you. And remember,
This is just a prompt to lead you to personal reflection. If this prompt isn’t what you want to focus on, then journal whatever God has brought to your mind.
I don’t know where the time went, but in 51 days I will be 60 years old! Me and Barbie – almost twins 🙂
Looking back over my life I see a collage of events: some happy, some sad, some lonely, some exciting. All those events have led me to the person I am today.
There are times I want to linger on the mistakes of life and have a pity party. I have learned to step past that moment. Every decision I made was made with the information I had at the time. They say ‘hindsight is 20/20’ and that is true. I can look back and say what I shoulda, coulda, woulda done. That is a terrible thing to do to myself. I have details now I didn’t have then. And if I had them, I was in a different place of processing that information.
Shoulda, coulda, and woulda (and their variants) are not allowed in my vocabulary. I did such and such, now let the consequences and celebrations happen as I prepare to take the next step.
I live in the now. The past is gone. It helped to mold me, but it cannot hold me. Today is another day. And soon I will celebrate another year. It took a long time to accept ‘me’ but now I do – most of the time. God accepts me as I am, even knowing all the details I never shared with anyone. His grace has led me to this day, and will lead me through the upcoming days.
I am blessed by God – and no shoulda, coulda, woulda can change that.
Today I celebrate me. What are you celebrating today?