As we approach the middle of the year, I look back and see the journal prompts have taken us in various directions.
This week as I work on creating a workbook for my “Defeating the Lies of Negative Self-Talk” I am journaling the prompt asking me to face a lie I tell myself and replace it with truth this week.
A major lie I tell myself over and over is that I have nothing God can use. That is a big lie, with the intent of stopping me from stepping out. The truth is I am a child of God and I am to live a Christ-like life sharing His Word and His love.
I describe myself as a Recovering Perfectionist with a Type A personality and OCD tendancies.
I struggle with finding ‘good enough’. When will I be good enough? Is it possible to be good enough. What if someone doesn’t think I am good enough? These questions haunt me, and as I have spoken with other women, I realize I am not alone.
I often paralyze and don’t do anything if I feel I will not be able to perform to perfection. This is neither healthy nor productive.
I was reminded today of the phrase “You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take.”
Despite the basketball picture I created, this led to a discussion on baseball. The batting average of most professional players is between .250 and .275. Someone with a batting average over .300 is considered a very good batter and can be paid millions of dollars.
That player worth millions of dollars may hit the ball once every three times; that’s a success rate of one third.
So why do I feel unworthy when I do not perform at 100% excellence all the time?
Looking with a new perspective, it is time to take a step back and re-evaluate my need for personal perfectionism.
I will continue to always give my best, but I must learn to take a step back to reconsider giving perfection.
It is hard to accept there is a difference between doing my best and being perfect. It is a LIE I have been telling myself. I need to start practicing my own preaching about LIES.
Perfection is not the definition of ‘Good Enough’. Giving my best, is. And yes, TerryAnn, there IS a difference.
We go through struggles and often get caught up in the chaos of life around us.
It is sometimes possible to get caught up in this that we forget to celebrate the successes.
Okay, let me reword that. Sometimes I get so caught up in the drama and chaos around me I forget there are successes. I need to celebrate and remind myself of those successes.
So this week’s journal prompt has you reminding yourself of one or successes in your life. Describe something about you that you are proud of. Celebrate! You worked hard. Don’t let the successes of life be crowded out by the chaos of life. What are you proud of?
What have you learned about yourself since you started journaling? Take a moment to comment below. Celebrate!
I am in a couple of Toastmasters clubs. In one club there is a member who is blind. I am awe-struck whenever I see her.
This woman sees through hearing, and she ‘sees’ a lot. She picks up on things people do simply by listening and notices things those of us who are watching don’t necessarily see.
Over the weekend we were both attending a conference where I had an opportunity to see her in a larger public arena. I was most impressed seeing her walk through the halls and meeting room. I expected to see her holding tight to someone’s arm as she was led around. Not this woman. She did have guides, but these people walked a step or two away from her and made statements like ‘turn left here’, ‘there is a door to your right’, ‘the table is just ahead’.
She trusted these people and followed their lead. She walked independently and made her way through the large crowd. She placed her faith in the words of the other person.
For we walk by FAITH, not by SIGHT. 2 Corinthians 5:7
Nothing keeps this woman down. She holds out her stick to alert her to any obstacle and listens to her companion for direction. She hears the conversations of those walking the halls as well. And she moves with confidence. She doesn’t step hesitantly; she steps firmly and moves forward. She sees her next step by the words of the other person. When she moves, she focuses only on the next step. She stays in the moment.
How often to I stand, paralyzed with fear at the unknown even when I can see all around me. I wonder at what is beyond my view. I am concerned about the steps behind me. I stand, wondering, fearing what is seen and what is not seen.
Suzie is the ultimate image of what it means to ‘walk by faith’.
Watching her this weekend reminded me I need to close my mind’s eyes and open the eyes of my heart to walk where God’s Spirit leads me – one step at a time. I need to listen, to focus on now and take each step boldly.
What do you see on your path? How are you walking? Are you being led by faith, or by sight?
My ‘verse of the year’ is Psalm 119:1. It reads “You are blessed when you stay on course, walking steadily on the road revealed by God.”
I can walk that road, but I get flustered when I find a road block on it. OK God, now what?
Do I find a detour?
Should I turn around and go back?
Perhaps I need to address the roadblock and do something with it.
I don’t know. Then I get flustered. I paralyze with uncertainty.
It is at times like this I need to STOP. I have to force myself to take some deep breaths.
The hard part is looking at that roadblock with a clear vision. Perhaps I can step over it, or around it. In order to see more clearly the roadblock, I must clear my mind. I must look to possibilities and options in the here and now. I often must give up my past misconceptions. I remind myself of the prize at the end of the path.
Once I get a clearer view of the roadblock and my options, I must act. Staring at it will not get me past the moment.
I encourage you this week to look at the roadblock keeping you from moving forward. How will you, how do you, address it?
There may be multiple roadblocks in your path. Which ONE will you face down? Once you have faced that one, look for another one. Face it.
What is beyond the roadblock in your path? Do you want to get to the other side. How will you do so?
I share some of my tactics, what do you do? If you wish, enter in the comments below.
As we get older it is easy to look back and say ‘I should already know this’ or ‘I should have already done that’ or any other phrase discounting our personal successes.
It is important to remember, each step we take, each season of life, every day and every year is a lesson.
We need each of those to move toward the goal.
DON’T STOP! Celebrate the successes along the way and keep moving forward.
Though it seems too far away, and you wonder if you will arrive, the goal is still within reach. It may take more time to get there but get there you will. Remember the story of the tortoise and the hare.
Keep moving toward the goal. Quitting assures you will never get there.
I was watching some little girls getting ready to play house. One little girl caught my attention. She was assigning roles to each player, setting the scene of what they would be doing, and even telling everyone what they would say and do. She had their play time all scripted out.
Watching this, I had to laugh at myself. This is what I try to do every day with every aspect of my life. Like that little girl, I am very detail oriented. I like to know what is going to happen and when. I want to know what everyone is doing and how they are doing it. I want to know how everything comes together in the end. I want a script in my life.
I don’t like uncertainty. Uncertainty leads to chaos!
Yet, life is full of uncertainty. I like Bob Goff’s comment because it makes me stop for a moment to reflect back. It was in moments of uncertainty that we grow. It is in moments of chaos that we find our own peace. And when I look back, it is in those moments where I find a strength I did not know was there.
Life is uncertain. Embrace it. Write the title of that chapter later.