Category Archives: Psychology

Journal Prompt – week 23

I cannot believe it is already week 23 of 2019. Have you been following along with the journal prompts?

This week week we look at peace. What is it? When do you feel peace?

Jesus says He is giving up His peace (see John 14:27). Peace doesn’t mean there will be no difficulties or that we will always be happy. Peace is different than happiness. You can be in the midst of turmoil, yet have peace.

What does peace look like to you?

This week’s journal prompt begins with “I feel at peace when……” When you feel at peace?

While I was working on this journal prompt and wondering about my own peace I came across a phrase that really hit home. So many times I looked at peace to mean avoiding conflict. But as this phrase reminds me, that may bring peace to the situation, but it starts a war within myself. It takes away my peace.

I guess before I can describe feeling peace, I must first define it.

What does peace look like to you? Can you define it? When do you experience it? If you are willing, share your thoughts below.

51 Days to 60

I don’t know where the time went, but in 51 days I will be 60 years old! Me and Barbie – almost twins 🙂

Looking back over my life I see a collage of events: some happy, some sad, some lonely, some exciting. All those events have led me to the person I am today.

There are times I want to linger on the mistakes of life and have a pity party. I have learned to step past that moment. Every decision I made was made with the information I had at the time. They say ‘hindsight is 20/20’ and that is true. I can look back and say what I shoulda, coulda, woulda done. That is a terrible thing to do to myself. I have details now I didn’t have then. And if I had them, I was in a different place of processing that information.

Shoulda, coulda, and woulda (and their variants) are not allowed in my vocabulary. I did such and such, now let the consequences and celebrations happen as I prepare to take the next step.

I live in the now. The past is gone. It helped to mold me, but it cannot hold me. Today is another day. And soon I will celebrate another year. It took a long time to accept ‘me’ but now I do – most of the time. God accepts me as I am, even knowing all the details I never shared with anyone. His grace has led me to this day, and will lead me through the upcoming days.

I am blessed by God – and no shoulda, coulda, woulda can change that.

Today I celebrate me. What are you celebrating today?

Defeating the Lies of Negative Self-Talk

What do you say to yourself when you look in the mirror?

When you make a mistake?

Are those words self-defeating, or encouraging?

I recently caught myself after I heard someone declare “I do not like to hear you talk about my friend like that”.

I worked hard to look at the lies of my self-talk, replacing them with the truth. I started to look at myself the way God sees me.

It wasn’t necessarily fun. It truly wasn’t easy. But it certainly was worth it.

Join me for a FREE Webinar titled “Defeating the Lies of Negative Self-Talk”.  Yes, you CAN gain control of negative self-talk and face down the lies.

In this 45 minutes presentation, I will guide you through (1) seeing with a new perspective to recognize the negative self-talk (2) finding unknown possibilities as you consider the talk as lies then you will (3) personalize and image speaking truth to the lies so that you can proceed and change the self-talk.

Don’t listen to that negative voice telling you that you cannot change, sign up today

You will walk away with tools to get you started. If you choose, you may accept an offer to follow up in a way you can dig deeper with these and Defeat the Lies of Self-Talk.

Join me on March 4th, and take your first steps to March Forth into Truthful Self-Talk. Sign up at via Eventbrite – the link to this online event will be sent to you via email.

Journal Idea – Week 1

What is THE ONE PRIORITY I want to focus on this new year?

If The Tiara Fits

 

Today is one of those “I need my tiara” days.  What is an “I need a tiara” kind of day?
It’s one of those days when I’m overwhelmed by the multitude of things I have to do. I feel I’m being attacked from so many different sides, I cannot focus. I cannot think straight. Eventually I start thinking “I can’t do this” and then negative voices start speaking in my head (not real verbal voices, just those overwhelmingly negative feelings) The sounds of the negative voices gets louder and louder until it becomes all consuming and that’s all I can hear.
Not long ago my small group from church did a video study called “Crash the Chatterbox”.  In this video the author, Steven Furtick, describes different ways that he personalized those negative voices allowing him to face them down. Taking my cue from this, I chose a couple of ways to silence my own negative voices.  The one I’d like to share with you today is – a tiara.
You see, the negative voices make me feel that I am very unworthy; however when I wear the tiara I’m reminded I am someone special.
Did you watch the latest royal wedding?  I have some friends who recorded every moment of all the activities surrounding that event and they enjoy watching it over and over. The world appeared to be totally fascinated with this woman becoming royalty. Just by this act, she was suddenly someone very special.
I want to remind myself I am worthy of that as well.  I did a Google search and one of the interesting things I found about royalty is that when you dine with the Queen, once the Queen stops eating – everyone stops eating. It doesn’t matter if you still have two more bites of that delicious chocolate pie left, you don’t get to finish it. By laying down her fork, the Queen has declared the meal ended.  Using his analogy, I applied it to those negative thoughts and voices. I put on my tiara and declare “Negative voices, you will no longer dine on my doubts; you are no longer welcome to feast on my failures; you will not be permitted to snack on my lack of self-confidence. NO to you negative voices. I am royalty and I am taking charge. This meal is over!”
I know it sounds silly, and watching a woman nearly 60 years old with her little plastic tiara (by the way, It’s 5 or 6 dollars at the local party store) might even bring a smile to your face. I know it does to mine. Whenever I see the tiara or my reflection in a mirror, I smile. And that smile, that little laugh can actually turn down the volume of those negative voices until I can’t hear them anymore. As the negative voices go away the volume of the positive ones grow louder and louder.
When I am having a day where there is so much coming against me I cannot see the positive, I put on my cute little five dollar plastic tiara and totally turn my day around. Thinking in a positive way can allow positive things to happen.
What is something that you can do to bring a smile to your face and turn down the volume on the negative voices in your head.  I’d love to hear some of your thoughts.
Today, I am Princess TerryAnn

Have You Stopped Dreaming?

Dreaming. As a child I dressed as a princess and dreamed of life in a castle. My Barbie (in the days before she had all these beautiful clothes, cars, and professions) could be anything I wanted. My mom’s large cooking pot was Barbie’s swimming pool. In my dreams I traveled the world.

Then life happened, I grew up, and one by one the dreams started fading away. I got so tied up in the ‘shoulds’ of life, I forgot the ‘dreams’.

Recently I bought a tiara o remind myself I am a princess. I am a child of the King of Kings! I am turning down the volume of the voices in my head telling me I am nothing.

What is holding you back from chasing your dreams? For many, it is self-doubt. Let’s step out together, face down that self-doubt and seek those possibilities we have buried.

Stretching my comfort zones, I created my first online video. I am calling it “Teatime with TerryAnn”. I am hoping it will be the 1st of many.

Let’s explore the word DREAM over the next few weeks. For the letter DI dare you. I dare you to dare yourself. Forget all the responsibilities, troubles, and obligations for 1 minute. Set the timer – 1 minute. In this 1 minute write out your dream. Let your mind wander, where will you go in this dream?

That 1 minute may feel like an eternity the first time I did it. I tried it again the next day, it was still hard. After several days, I was able to ignore the beep of the timer.

How about you? Will you join me?

DREAM. The letter D, I dare you.

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