Earlier this year I prompted the question ‘What would be the theme song of your life?’ For myself I had trouble coming up with one. I think I decided – at least for now – the song would be theme to the Mary Tyler Moore show. I love the words ‘you are going to make it after all’ . No matter what happens, I will make it.
Today then leads me to considering ‘What would the title of my life story be’ hmmm. I wonder.
While I am looking at my own thoughts, feel free to share yours in the comments below if you would like.
I stood in front of the mirror looking at me in a swimsuit. It was to be our first outing to the pool.
As I stared at my reflection those negative voices started in.
“You look like a beached whale”
“People are going to laugh at you”
“Are you really going out in public like that?”
Then my inner strength stepped up, ready for battle.
“What does it matter what they think?
“This is an outing with your husband, not the word”
“The people at the pool are there to enjoy the summer day, not look at what you are wearing”
“This is not a photo shoot!!!”
This is not a photo shoot. Wow. That certainly made me stop to think.
So many times I did not join in the fun because I thought I looked too fat, or too ugly, or the outfit I wore wasn’t flattering. “What will the others think” ruled my thoughts. I missed out on so much fun.
If others were busy talking about the weight I had gained or the outfit I wore, that was their problem. They, too, were missing out on the fun and the purpose of the gathering.
So I lathered on the sunscreen and stepped into the water. I glanced around. No one was looking at me. They were busy with their own lives, their families, their children. I was just someone passing by them into the waters they were heading into themselves.
Life is not a photo shoot, TerryAnn. Get out there and enjoy it.
As we approach the middle of the year, I look back and see the journal prompts have taken us in various directions.
This week as I work on creating a workbook for my “Defeating the Lies of Negative Self-Talk” I am journaling the prompt asking me to face a lie I tell myself and replace it with truth this week.
A major lie I tell myself over and over is that I have nothing God can use. That is a big lie, with the intent of stopping me from stepping out. The truth is I am a child of God and I am to live a Christ-like life sharing His Word and His love.
I describe myself as a Recovering Perfectionist with a Type A personality and OCD tendancies.
I struggle with finding ‘good enough’. When will I be good enough? Is it possible to be good enough. What if someone doesn’t think I am good enough? These questions haunt me, and as I have spoken with other women, I realize I am not alone.
I often paralyze and don’t do anything if I feel I will not be able to perform to perfection. This is neither healthy nor productive.
I was reminded today of the phrase “You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take.”
Despite the basketball picture I created, this led to a discussion on baseball. The batting average of most professional players is between .250 and .275. Someone with a batting average over .300 is considered a very good batter and can be paid millions of dollars.
That player worth millions of dollars may hit the ball once every three times; that’s a success rate of one third.
So why do I feel unworthy when I do not perform at 100% excellence all the time?
Looking with a new perspective, it is time to take a step back and re-evaluate my need for personal perfectionism.
I will continue to always give my best, but I must learn to take a step back to reconsider giving perfection.
It is hard to accept there is a difference between doing my best and being perfect. It is a LIE I have been telling myself. I need to start practicing my own preaching about LIES.
Perfection is not the definition of ‘Good Enough’. Giving my best, is. And yes, TerryAnn, there IS a difference.
I cannot believe it is already week 23 of 2019. Have you been following along with the journal prompts?
This week week we look at peace. What is it? When do you feel peace?
Jesus says He is giving up His peace (see John 14:27). Peace doesn’t mean there will be no difficulties or that we will always be happy. Peace is different than happiness. You can be in the midst of turmoil, yet have peace.
What does peace look like to you?
This week’s journal prompt begins with “I feel at peace when……” When you feel at peace?
While I was working on this journal prompt and wondering about my own peace I came across a phrase that really hit home. So many times I looked at peace to mean avoiding conflict. But as this phrase reminds me, that may bring peace to the situation, but it starts a war within myself. It takes away my peace.
I guess before I can describe feeling peace, I must first define it.
What does peace look like to you? Can you define it? When do you experience it? If you are willing, share your thoughts below.
We go through struggles and often get caught up in the chaos of life around us.
It is sometimes possible to get caught up in this that we forget to celebrate the successes.
Okay, let me reword that. Sometimes I get so caught up in the drama and chaos around me I forget there are successes. I need to celebrate and remind myself of those successes.
So this week’s journal prompt has you reminding yourself of one or successes in your life. Describe something about you that you are proud of. Celebrate! You worked hard. Don’t let the successes of life be crowded out by the chaos of life. What are you proud of?
What have you learned about yourself since you started journaling? Take a moment to comment below. Celebrate!
I’ve not seen it actually happen, but it occurs a lot on TV dramas. Someone asks a question and the other person says ‘walk with me’. They then walk down a hall or along a path to discuss whatever the topic is.
The implication, this is something we need to work on this together.
I ran across a quote that reminded me God doesn’t want us walking alone.
Ecclesiastes 4:9-12 read ” Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor: If either of them falls down, one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up. Also, if two lie down together, they will keep warm. But how can one keep warm alone? Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.
God did not intend us to walk alone. He looked at Adam and said “It is not good for man to be alone” and created Eve. So they walk together.
With technology today, many people spend more time with their computer screens than interacting one-on-one with the people around them.
For myself, when I work, I prefer an office by myself, with the door closed. I get a lot done. Work is more productive and goes much faster.
But there is more to the job than that. When I work alongside someone with a goal in mind we get much further in the process.
When I go for a walk the same thing happens. I can go it alone at a pace I desire and get there faster. But when I walk with a friend, we have conversations, we laugh, we share, and can keep on going.
I was reminded today “If you want to go fast, go alone. If you want to go far, go together.” Jesus said this often to his disciples. He would walk with the 12, and other times he would take 3 and say ‘walk with me’.
Alone time is good, and everyone needs that. Remember to include someone else in your walk. Not just through your keyboard. Someone you can look in the eye and say “walk with me”.