Category Archives: Goal Setting

Journal Prompt for week 46

The holidays are here!

For some, that statement brings on excitement and pleasant anticipation.

For others, sadness, anxiety, and turmoil.

What about you? What emotions doe the holidays bring forth in you?

I have mixed emotions. I enjoy decorating, setting up my “Christmas Village” and hooking up the big Christmas bear in my front yard. I love driving around to find homes and neighborhoods decked out with beautiful lights. I can sit for long periods of time near a house where they set up the music to match the lights.

I always enjoy gift giving. However, I dread the obligation of gift-giving. Giving because “I have to” verses giving because “I want to”. The desire to be a People-Pleaser comes to the surface. It creates anxiety and paralyzes me. The fun and joy fade away.

How about you? Write to yourself with this week’s journal. What do you like/dislike about the holiday season?

Being Alone – Journal Prompt Week 45

I like being alone. Sometimes.

I like being around people. Sometimes.

I get a lot of work done when I can focus without interruption. I feel successful when I complete a task. Interruptions to anything I am trying can be beneficial in allowing me time to take a break. At other times the interruption breaks the momentum and I have trouble returning to the project.

For me, there is no ‘one way’ to assign being alone. There are days I crave personal interaction and am energized by the people around me.

I know, I know. I sound wishy/washy, I am. For me there is one specific way for me to interact. I know when I need to be alone and I make it a point to get that alone time. I know when I need to be around people, even if it is simply walking the mall and people watching.

I cannot answer the question with a definitive answer. However, I know that I need both alone time and personal connections.

This prompt really got me thinking. How about you?

Journal Prompt -Week 44

For years I have received mixed messages. As a strong woman if I spoke up or stepped out I was criticized for being headstrong, over-confident, bossy.

Then when I didn’t speak out or step us I was being timid.

I couldn’t win. Especially if I was trying to please others. There is no way to please everyone. This then leads to inner confusion.

Something someone said that stropped me in my tracks and changed my perspective was

I cannot please everyone. That was hard enough to learn. But then I heard someone tell about a time she was in a meeting and was told “you are intimidating’. Another responded “is she intimidating or are you intimidated?”

Is she intimidating, or are you intimidated?

I stopped to consider this. I am not responsible for their thoughts or feelings. I only have control over mine. While I will not intentionally set out to hurt someone, just because they are hurt or upset, it doesn’t mean I did something wrong.

This comment made me stop to remember that. Perspective makes all the difference.

What is something someone said that stopped you in your tracks causing you to reconsider your perspective?

Continuing the Journey – Journal Prompt week 43

This week’s journal prompt asks you to think about your favorite book/movie/song.   Why do you like it? What do you feel when you read/watch/hear it?  What makes it special for you? 

I love the movie “It’s A Wonderful Life”. Every year I stop to wonder if I were never born, would there be any difference? Have I made a difference?

Though not a big Adam Sandler fan, I like the movie, “Click”. It reminded me that I often wish I could fast forward through events in my life, but in doing so there is much I would miss.

A recent song I enjoy that brings tears to my eyes every time is “You Say” sung by Lauren Daigle.

How about you? Will you, like me, have trouble narrowing you favorite down to just one?

It’s okay, you aren’t limited.

Journal Prompt – week 41

I find it easy to lose my confidence. It could start from a word someone says, or a glance, a feeling I have done something wrong. Once I let a pin hole of doubt invade by confidence, it continually seeps, like a deflated balloon.

There are so many ways my confidence slowly fills back up, but I never notice what or how. I certainly hold onto those things that deflate me, but haven’t spent much time noticing when my confidence is growing.

Thus, the Journal prompt for this week. “I feel most confident when I….”

I feel most confident when I

I want to encourage you this week to take note of what deflates and inflates your confidence.

If you like, share your thoughts below.

Journal Prompt – Week 40

It is hard to believe we are into week 40 of 2019.

When the year started did you make a list of things you wanted to accomplish this year? How are you doing?

As 2020 draws nearer, consider what will you complete before 2020 begins?

What will it take for you to complete that goal?

What obstacles are in your way? How will you overcome them?

How will you celebrate when you complete that goal?

When Those Around You Tell You ‘Do Not Go’

You have spent time preparing to step into your dream. You have saved, studied, and made the necessary arrangements to move forward.

Then you tell those around you, those whose opinion you respect, expecting to hear words of affirmation and congratulations, only to be told how wrong you are to pursue this.

How do you step past the negativity and into the unknown, with positive self-confidence?

Today on “Tea Time with CoachTA” I talk with Connie Menser of Full Supply Inc. We discuss that moment when she chose to leave her full time career to join the Navigators, and the path where that decision has led.

Who Is Telling You ‘No’?

I had the honor of interviewing Amanda Keleher this week. Amanda is a woman of strong vision, seeing what most people miss.

I met Amanda about a year and a half ago. I was immediately impressed. Despite being blind, this beautiful woman sees more than many around her.

Amanda is a courage coach, partnering with Christian women who are doing #allthethings, but still not living the abundant life God promised.

In this interview Amanda and I talk about the 3 people who tell women ‘no’ and some strategies for overcoming obstacles. You can find more about Amanda at her website vibrantvisioncoaching.com

Journal Prompt – Week 37

I recently came across a quote from John Steinbeck’s book “East of Eden”. It reads, ‘now that you don’t have to be perfect, you can be good’.

If I read the book before I do not recall. I have since, bought the book. The phrase says so much too much to me.

And now that you don't have to be perfect, you can be goo.

First and foremost, I find the phrase to be freeing. I know I can not perfect, yet I expect perfection in myself.

I don’t expect perfection from others, yet I expect perfection in myself.

WHY!?!?!?

I used to believe striving for perfection meant I was giving it my best. I have since realized it just meant nothing I ever did would never be good enough.

It’s a struggle to allow myself to be happy with ‘good enough’; to quit looking and thinking I coulda/shoulda/woulda done better.

Striving for perfection and knowing it couldn’t be achieved only paralyzed me. If it can’t be perfect don’t do anything became the rule.

Expecting perfection in everything took something away from me – internal peace. There is constant frustration, anger, and self loathing when the chaos of imperfection rules.

Once I accepted ‘good enough’ I accomplished so much more. And I am able to enjoy my accomplishments.

Do you struggle with ‘good enough’? Are you willing to accept it?

What perfection is holding you back?

Journal Prompt – week 34

Some of my most frustrating moments come when I say ‘yes’ to something I wanted to say ‘no’ to.

Do you do the same? The journal prompt for this week asks “How do you feel when you do this?”

A hard lesson to learn was that ‘no’ is a complete sentence. It is okay to say ‘no’ and not give a long drawn out explanation as to why. Once I finally realized this, I was able to step further in my “Recovering People Pleaser” phase. I do slip back at times, but each time I am reminded why I learned to say ‘no’

By saying ‘no’ to things that stretch me beyond my coping skills, I can enjoy the times I say ‘yes’ more fully.