Category Archives: Goal Setting

What’s Your Zone?

What zone are you experiencing today?
COVID-19 has certainly turned life upside down.

Everyone reacts differently. In the midst of this chaos, there can be conflict. Often this conflict centers around others not responding as we do. We expect everyone to feel as we do.

They don’t. And they won’t.

An unpleasant truth is that you cannot control the reactions of others. You can help, but you cannot change others. You are the only one you can change.

Are you reacting, or responding?

I found this graphic on FB. I can’t give credit to the creator as I have no idea where it originated. I like how it describes 3 zones looking at “Who do I want to be during COVID-19?”

Note, it doesn’t ask “who am I?” It asks “who do I want to be?” There is a difference.

Where are you on the chart? Are in the Fear Zone? Learning? Growth? Where would you like to be? The difference between the two is the gap you must cross.

How are you going to cross that gap? As a life coach, I can help you move along that path.

Journal Prompt – I will

I have heard the phrase in so many ways.

  • Do or or not, there is no try
  • Action over Intent
  • You are what you do, not what you say you will do
  • A goal without a plan is just a wish

Each time I see or hear one of these phrases I am spurred to move forward. I am reminded that I have to get it out of my head, and into action.

Oh, but sometimes getting started is so hard. Why????

I don’t know about you, but for myself, I feel like I am drowning in F*E*A*R. Fear – False Evidence Appearing Real. While the plan looks good, Fear shows me it will fail. Fear even shows me if I succeed, I will do something to make it fail. And I stay in the ‘I want to’ mode.

Yes, I may fail. Failure is not fatal. It is something that did not work. So I learn what did work, and use it to move forward again.

Walt Disney was fired from Hallmark for not being creative enough, then went bankrupt with his own design company before he became the famous creator we know today.

Oprah Winfrey was released from her first TV job because she was “unfit for television”.

There are so many more similar stories. Financial guru Dave Ramsey tells how he became ‘an overnight success after 20 years of trying’.

The one thing each of these people did that I find myself not doing. Each one learned from their experience, applied their new-found wisdom, and continued to move forward.

What is holding you back? What will it take to move from “I want to” to “I will” and “I did”? Where will you go?

Weekly Journal Prompt

I was recently talking with some friends. We were discussing things we are looking forward to over the next few weeks, months, even a few years.

It took me a little bit to think of what I am looking forward to. I often think of the next few months, maybe even within this year. When the friend commented saving and planning for an Alaskan cruise it made me wonder what I am planning past this year.

Thus this week’s prompt.

Tonight I am looking forward to the KC Chiefs winning the Super Bowl tonight (it had to be said, hehe).

This month I am excited my small group weekly meeting begin again.

This year I excited to grow in leadership in speaking skills as I continue to participate in Toastmasters.

Beyond that? I don’t know. I think I will pull out my journal and prayerfully consider this response.

How about you? What is something you are forward to?

Journal Prompt

Today is Monday. As I am planning my week I ask myself one question,

How will what I am doing now, bring me closer to my year-end goal?

I have set the course. There will be checkpoints along the way. I must keep my eye on the prize.

This isn’t always easy.

I am a natural multi-tasker. It is not unusual to have more than a dozen tabs open on my browser, WORD, my checkbook software, and more at the same time. I do a little here, a little there, start something else, make a phone call, and continue at this pace. (This also explains why I have a number of knit and crochet projects in various bags in my closet.)

While I do get a lot done, I accept that I would get more if I worked one project all the way through, then move on. Knowing and doing are two separate issues.

Thus, this week’s journal prompt. I have my word of the year. I have goals for this year. I don’t want to keep starting new things. I want to keep growing and learning with a goal in mind. If a new project takes me away from the goal, then I need to reconsider where it will lead me.

This week means completing and posting this blog post, continuing to prepare for the next Defeating the LIES workshop, preparing speeches for upcoming Toastmasters events, and resting when my mind and body say ‘enough’.

What goals do you have for this week, and where are they leading you?

Got a Bucket List?

What is on your bucket list? Why is that item on your bucket list?

That is the journal prompt for this week.

Many people I know have a bucket list – things they want to do one day. Others just say there are things they’d like to do. Me? I just say ‘one day I might like to do that.’

For your bucket list consider:

  • Why is it on your bucket list?
  • What do you want to get out of that?
  • What will it take to do that?
  • Why have you not done it yet?
  • What will you feel like once you have done it?

Just to name a few questions.

What bucket list item is the first one you will complete?

2020 First Journal Prompt

And just like that, it is the year 2020.

Last week on New Year’s Eve I remembered back to that night in 1999. I was the computer department for a medium-sized doctor organization with multiple locations. I stayed up all night checking the servers and ready to run to the offices on a moment’s notice if the world were to come to an end when all the computers changed from 1999 to 2000.

Nothing happened, I didn’t have to run out into the night and I slept in the next day.

It is hard to believe that it was 20 years ago. So much has happened in my life in these 20 years.

Each year I set goals for myself. Some I followed through on; others I tossed aside.

Thinking back on this caused me to address this in a journal prompt.

Statistics show that only about 8% of the New Year Resolutions made are completed. Why? There is no commitment, no buy-in.

I want to encourage you this week to carefully consider:

What are your top goals for 2020?

Why is each one important to you?

What will accomplishing these goals give you?

Take some time this week to establish a goal. Make it a smart goal.: Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Relevant, and Time-Based.

If you would like to talk about these goals one-on-one, send me a message.

Imagine it is now 2021 and you are discussing your accomplishments of the previous year. What will you be celebrating?

Decade-End Journal Prompt

As this year, this decade is coming to a close, I am reminded how far I have come and how I have grown over the past 10 years.

Some steps may be small, but they are steps ahead nonetheless.

I intentionally defied doctor recommendations and fought to quit taking opioid medications even before the big society push to do so. It took over a year, but I did it.

I completed studies at the Professional Christian Coach Institute and obtained my first level of certification, CPLC (Certified Professional Life Coach).

I hosted local workshops on Boundaries using material from Doctors Cloud and Townsend. I also hosted local workshops on Defeating the Lies of Negative Self-Talk with the materials I created.

Journal prompts were posted weekly. I am working on consistency in all areas of online posting.

Other changes were small.

Like making an effort to wear make-up. I don’t usually do more than a foundation so I am like a teenager playing with make-up colors and techniques.

Despite the physical pain, I strive to walk – even a short distance – weekly.

I am working toward a routine of personal time with God.

There is no major life-changing step, yet there is so much to celebrate. Yes, there were failures. I learned from each one and used it as a step toward success.

What are you celebrating as this decade comes to a close? Take a moment to review. Write out your successes, no matter how small. Every step forward is significant.


My Word for 2020 is….

Do you choose a “word of the year”?

I started doing this several years ago.  In 2018 my word was ‘unstoppable’.  It reminded me to keep moving toward my dreams, and that the only one to stop me from pursuing it would be me.  

For 2019 a short phrase was my focus “stay the course”.  I was reminded to keep moving forward on the course God has set me on (Psalm 119:1).  I do not yet know what is at the end of the path, but I know He is with me.

When I look at the year 2020, so many references to vision come to mind.  I argued with myself on the word ‘vision’ because I figure everyone will be using it.

Then I read Romans 12:3 “Be honest in your evaluation of yourself…”  Wow. I have been posting and teaching on stopping the lies of negative self-talk and replacing them with truth. God’s truth.

I am discouraged today, feeling down, telling myself so many lies. Writing this post reminds me I am doing exactly what I teach against.

The word “REFLECTION” came to mind.  I found a picture I use in some of my illustrations of a woman smiling at herself in the mirror.  I added the word REFLECTION at the top and wrote out Romans 12:3.

This is my word for 2020.  REFLECTION.  This year I am reminded to be honest in my evaluation of myself. I will reflect on who God says I am.

It is with this word I will conducting additional “Defeating the Lies of Negative Self-Talk” courses in-person and online.  It is with this word I will begin leading some “Boundaries” courses using material from Doctors Cloud and Townsend.  It is with this word I will be unstoppable, as I stay the course, and reflect honestly on God’s view of me.

I love how I can look back and see the progress God has made in me by reviewing past words.  Each one leads to the next step of my spiritual growth in Him.

What is your word for 2020? Where will it lead you? How can I help you?

Journal Prompt – Celebrate

This week I will celebrate my achievements of 2019.

Look back over the year. In the midst of the obstacles, you will find stepping stones. Among the trials, you will find successes.

Even if you took 3 steps forward and 2 steps back, you are still one step ahead.

CELEBRATE! What successes, no matter how small, will you celebrate today?

One success for me is this journal prompts. Fifty weeks in a row! I am working on being consistent. Sometimes I had to be a few days late, but I continued. A small success, yet a success. I will celebrate. I will congratulate myself.

What successes will you celebrate?

Weekly Journal Prompt

As the year quickly draws to a close, and you plan ahead for the next ‘New Year Resolution’, take a few moments to look back over this past year.

You have certainly faced many challenges. What did you learn from them? How have you grown?

One of the biggest challenges I faced this year was.....
From it I learned I can....

So often we (it isn’t just me I hope) look at conflict and challenges as penalties and punishment. Sometimes they can easily be described as ‘growing pains’. I know for myself when the challenge is complete, I always learn something from it. I may come away with a few emotional bruises and hurt pride as well as strengthened resolve or knowledge for another time.

How about you? What challenges have you faced this year? What did you learn about yourself in the process?