Last week on New Year’s Eve I remembered back to that night in 1999. I was the computer department for a medium-sized doctor organization with multiple locations. I stayed up all night checking the servers and ready to run to the offices on a moment’s notice if the world were to come to an end when all the computers changed from 1999 to 2000.
Nothing happened, I didn’t have to run out into the night and I slept in the next day.
It is hard to believe that it was 20 years ago. So much has happened in my life in these 20 years.
Each year I set goals for myself. Some I followed through on; others I tossed aside.
Thinking back on this caused me to address this in a journal prompt.
Statistics show that only about 8% of the New Year Resolutions made are completed. Why? There is no commitment, no buy-in.
I want to encourage you this week to carefully consider:
What are your top goals for 2020?
Why is each one important to you?
What will accomplishing these goals give you?
Take some time this week to establish a goal. Make it a smart goal.: Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Relevant, and Time-Based.
If you would like to talk about these goals one-on-one, send me a message.
Imagine it is now 2021 and you are discussing your accomplishments of the previous year. What will you be celebrating?
I started doing this several years ago. In 2018 my word was ‘unstoppable’. It reminded me to keep moving toward my
dreams, and that the only one to stop me from pursuing it would be me.
For 2019 a short phrase was my focus “stay the course”. I was reminded to keep moving forward on the
course God has set me on (Psalm 119:1).
I do not yet know what is at the end of the path, but I know He is with
When I look at the year 2020, so many references to vision
come to mind. I argued with myself on
the word ‘vision’ because I figure everyone will be using it.
Then I read Romans 12:3 “Be honest in your evaluation of
yourself…” Wow. I have been posting and
teaching on stopping the lies of negative self-talk and replacing them with
truth. God’s truth.
I am discouraged today, feeling down, telling myself so many
lies. Writing this post reminds me I am doing exactly what I teach against.
The word “REFLECTION” came to mind. I found a picture I use in some of my illustrations of a woman smiling at herself in the mirror. I added the word REFLECTION at the top and wrote out Romans 12:3.
This is my word for 2020.
REFLECTION. This year I am
reminded to be honest in my evaluation of myself. I will reflect on who God
says I am.
It is with this word I will conducting additional “Defeating
the Lies of Negative Self-Talk” courses in-person and online. It is with this word I will begin leading
some “Boundaries” courses using material from Doctors Cloud and Townsend. It is with this word I will be unstoppable,
as I stay the course, and reflect honestly on God’s view of me.
I love how I can look back and see the progress God has made
in me by reviewing past words. Each one
leads to the next step of my spiritual growth in Him.
What is your word for 2020? Where will it lead you? How can
I help you?
This week I will celebrate my achievements of 2019.
Look back over the year. In the midst of the obstacles, you will find stepping stones. Among the trials, you will find successes.
Even if you took 3 steps forward and 2 steps back, you are still one step ahead.
CELEBRATE! What successes, no matter how small, will you celebrate today?
One success for me is this journal prompts. Fifty weeks in a row! I am working on being consistent. Sometimes I had to be a few days late, but I continued. A small success, yet a success. I will celebrate. I will congratulate myself.
As the year quickly draws to a close, and you plan ahead for the next ‘New Year Resolution’, take a few moments to look back over this past year.
You have certainly faced many challenges. What did you learn from them? How have you grown?
So often we (it isn’t just me I hope) look at conflict and challenges as penalties and punishment. Sometimes they can easily be described as ‘growing pains’. I know for myself when the challenge is complete, I always learn something from it. I may come away with a few emotional bruises and hurt pride as well as strengthened resolve or knowledge for another time.
How about you? What challenges have you faced this year? What did you learn about yourself in the process?
For some, that statement brings on excitement and pleasant anticipation.
For others, sadness, anxiety, and turmoil.
What about you? What emotions doe the holidays bring forth in you?
I have mixed emotions. I enjoy decorating, setting up my “Christmas Village” and hooking up the big Christmas bear in my front yard. I love driving around to find homes and neighborhoods decked out with beautiful lights. I can sit for long periods of time near a house where they set up the music to match the lights.
I always enjoy gift giving. However, I dread the obligation of gift-giving. Giving because “I have to” verses giving because “I want to”. The desire to be a People-Pleaser comes to the surface. It creates anxiety and paralyzes me. The fun and joy fade away.
How about you? Write to yourself with this week’s journal. What do you like/dislike about the holiday season?
I get a lot of work done when I can focus without interruption. I feel successful when I complete a task. Interruptions to anything I am trying can be beneficial in allowing me time to take a break. At other times the interruption breaks the momentum and I have trouble returning to the project.
For me, there is no ‘one way’ to assign being alone. There are days I crave personal interaction and am energized by the people around me.
I know, I know. I sound wishy/washy, I am. For me there is one specific way for me to interact. I know when I need to be alone and I make it a point to get that alone time. I know when I need to be around people, even if it is simply walking the mall and people watching.
I cannot answer the question with a definitive answer. However, I know that I need both alone time and personal connections.
This prompt really got me thinking. How about you?
For years I have received mixed messages. As a strong woman if I spoke up or stepped out I was criticized for being headstrong, over-confident, bossy.
Then when I didn’t speak out or step us I was being timid.
I couldn’t win. Especially if I was trying to please others. There is no way to please everyone. This then leads to inner confusion.
I cannot please everyone. That was hard enough to learn. But then I heard someone tell about a time she was in a meeting and was told “you are intimidating’. Another responded “is she intimidating or are you intimidated?”
Is she intimidating, or are you intimidated?
I stopped to consider this. I am not responsible for their thoughts or feelings. I only have control over mine. While I will not intentionally set out to hurt someone, just because they are hurt or upset, it doesn’t mean I did something wrong.
This comment made me stop to remember that. Perspective makes all the difference.
What is something someone said that stopped you in your tracks causing you to reconsider your perspective?