Category Archives: Development

Journal Idea – Week 6

Let’s dream a bit with this week’s Journal prompt.

If you could go anywhere in the world, where would you go?

Why did you choose that place?

What will you do while you are there?

Journal Idea – Week 5

When I get bogged down by the difficulties of time I tend to isolate myself.

To pull back, I have to remind myself “I am not alone”. It’s those times my weakness abound. That’s all I can think of.

My husband steps in and reminds me of my strengths. One after another he states the different strengths he sees in me; the ones I am hiding from.

Slowly I walk out of that isolation and into the strengths. Life’s difficulties can be tamed when I am strong. His support strengthens me.

Who is your biggest supporter? How do they support you?

How Journaling Led To A Published Book

I have been encouraging you to journal. Hear how my journaling led to publishing 2 books on Amazon through this youtube video   h

Or….. read it here.

Hi, TerryAnn here. I have my hot cup of tea, It’s rather cold with lots of snow here in the Midwest.

While I am sitting back,  relaxing and enjoying my tea I was just thinking that I asked all of you to start doing some journaling and to join me on this journey of journaling For the last few weeks I have given you a prompt – just something to think about when you sit down to write.

Whether you use that prompt or go on to something else is irrelevant. What’s important is that you are starting to just look within yourself. Start to write and don’t worry about grammar, don’t worry about punctuation, don’t even worry about the flow. Just write.

How are you doing?

As my husband and I were talking about this earlier I was reminded that it was journaling that led me to writing and publishing on Amazon two books.

The first one is “The Proverbs 31 Woman: God’s Work in Progress” and the other one titled “Stitched in Christ” 

Both of these books came from journal entries that I made. I enjoy knitting and crochet.  It was during some difficult times I was playing with my yarn that got me started.  I pulled out some yarn, all knotted tangled up. A part of my journal entry that day was how this knotted yarn reflected how I felt right then.

Fast forward a few years.  I’m looking back over my journal entries and all of a sudden it hit me. There was a theme. Several of these I then edited and put out there for others to read. From here I created the “Knit and Crochet Bible Study”. These books then came from those writings which then I posted on Amazon in book form.

I just want to share with you that you know there is so much within you that you don’t even know where all of this is leading you to.

Take the time to journal. Look deep within yourself. This is between you and God;  between you and yourself. Nobody else has to see these – unless one day down the road you get this bright idea to publish your thoughts into books and put them on Amazon.

If you’re interested in the books, go to Amazon and look them up.

Even if you don’t keep journaling, go ahead and make some comments.  I’d love to hear how journaling is working for you. Until next time, enjoy your cup of tea and stay warm.

Journal Idea – Week 2

What baggage, habits, lies will I leave behind as I enter the new year?

Journal Idea – Week 1

What is THE ONE PRIORITY I want to focus on this new year?

Note to Myself – Journaling through 2019

Do you journal? There are many articles and reports declaring the benefits of journaling. Some benefits include:

  • Clarify thoughts and feelings
  • Problem solving
  • Emotional release
  • Focus
  • Gratitude
  • Perspective

I have dozens of notebook laying around. I pull one out and start writing. I find it becomes my way of “letting it go” as Elsa would say.

Over time I have learned to set my perfectionism aside. I allow myself to write without paying attention to sentence structure and grammar. I allow myself to think freely and write in that manner. I am often surprised to find what I wrote when I finish.

Some people I have spoken to don’t want to journal because of fear someone else will read it. I harbor that fear as well.  My solution – if I have written something I want no one else to ever read, I shred it when I have read and processed my thoughts.  This is a note to myself, something between God and me. Shredding it assures me no one else will it.  It also has its own healing power as I destroy those thoughts that have haunted me.

Some journals I put away in a drawer, and forget they are there. I recently found one I had set aside. In reading what I wrote, I found I lamented about a situation that bothered me. A sudden realization came to me – the situation is the same, but I am not bothered by it anymore. I have changed my perspective and expectation. I smiled in a small celebration. I am growing and learning through this.

Others have cringed at the word “journal”.  The word itself is paralyzing. So don’t call it a journal. How about “My Thoughts” or “Note to Myself” or even “Just Because”.  It’s just a word. Find one that will propel you, not limit you.

There are no RULES for writing like this. Write to yourself, write to God…just write. That’s all.

To help you begin the process, and to keep me focused as I strive to ‘stay the course‘ I will post a prompt every Sunday or Monday as a possible topic. Even if you don’t choose the topic posted, let it be a reminder for you to write. Choose your own topic.

Make it fun, not a chore. Here are some suggestions.

  • Find one special notebook
  • Attach a special pen
  • Decorate it with pictures, stickers, drawings
  • Keep it in a safe place

Create yourself an inspiring place to write:

  • Plan on having a cup of hot tea
  • Sit in a comfortable chair
  • Turn off the TV or other devices for a few minutes
  • Begin with prayer or other meditation to clear your mind

Journaling doesn’t have to be perfect, organized, confusing, or frightening. Many things are like this when they are unknown, when they are new, when it is something you haven’t done before. Step slowly in to it. Try it once a week to start. Give yourself permission to do it.

Imagine it is December 31 a year from now. What will you find if you look back over your writing?

Will you take a step and join in this year? Watch for a post with WEEK 1’s writing suggestion.

 

 

 

The Mood Around Me

I have been working to allow myself to become a ‘recovering’ people pleaser.  It takes a lot of self-reflection and looking within, but I am now becoming more aware and able to address many people pleasing issues when they arise.

Feeling I had moved ahead, I was very surprised recently to notice a situation that reminded me I am very sensitive to the mood around me. And it came about in a most unusual circumstance…..

I was laying in bed, watching a re-run of Johnny Carson when this overwhelming sense of urgency for another washed over me.  During his monologue, Johnny and Doc have a discussion where Doc says the band has been working on a piece to play for the show. Johnny says they will work that in.

After the monologue, which wasn’t very funny, a series of jokes were presented, that were even less funny. As this is failing, a comment is made to Doc again about working the band in. I am thinking, ‘this bit you are doing is not funny, let’s hear the band.’  Despite my attempt at sending an ESP message to Johnny, he continues with the unfunny bit, comments to Doc, then the first guest is introduced. The interaction with the guest is not especially interesting. I think, let Doc  and the band play. Comments exchange between Doc and Johnny – I feel a tension between the two – I am amazed at the feeling washing over me.

Another guest comes on. Another tension filled comment about time is exchanged with Doc. I put myself in the position of the guest and think, guest, you need to defer to the band. Why are you going on like this? Can’t you feel the tension? I try to remind myself the guest is there and focused on his own agenda, as he should be. That is why he was booked and what he is being paid for.

Johnny makes a comment to Doc there is no time and ends the show.  My heart is racing. Why didn’t they make time adjustments? Why didn’t they let the band play? What was that all about?

I couldn’t go to sleep. I was upset because I sensed a tension. There was nothing I could do about it. This happened 30 some odd years ago! And I am filled with the tension because of what I perceived took place on the set.  Was there really a tension? I don’t know for certain either way. I just know what I saw from my vantage point. Something was happening – someone was upset – something needed to be fixed.

I have been looking for what triggers my desire to please others and bring peace. I was amazed to see this button get tripped.  I will certainly be facing this issue next.

Have you noticed any people pleasing or group mood tensions affect your life?  How do you face them?

Lather Rinse Repeat

I glanced at my shampoo bottle while washing my hair this morning.  The directions read “lather, rinse, repeat”.  As I thought on this my literal mind said, ‘there is no escape clause’.  How many times do I lather, rinse, repeat?

Thinking on the escape clause I was reminded of posts and stories from friends who participated in local Escape Rooms.  I don’t know if you have these around you, but here they are everywhere.

As I understand it, you and your friends are locked in a room and must work together to find a way out. A way to escape.

Lather, rinse, repeat gets us into a rut. Apply that scenario to a rut you are in. You continue to do the same thing over and over again. You are going nowhere. The doors are all locked. You have to get unstuck.

From the Escape Room description, I find 2 points that are important in getting out of a rut.

  1. Take your friends with you. Don’t go it alone.  It is easy when you get overwhelmed or frustrated to withdraw. That may add to the weight of the load you are carrying. Talk to someone. Call a friend. They can often present to you a perspective you had not considered. Which leads me to point #2.
  2. Find the clues. With multiple sets of eyes on the situation, there are many small clues that may be found. Clear your mind and expand your horizon.

To break the cycle of the rut you have to make a change. It may require a small change, perhaps looking in a different direction. It may require a big change. Even so, that big change will probably require a number of small changes. Break it down. Take one step at a time and move away from the rut.

It’s time to lather, rinse, and put the bottle down.

As a life coach, I help you break down that big change into smaller, manageable steps.

Make Your Dreams Come True

I dared you to D*R*E*A*M and asked you to join on the journey.

Today we conclude our discussion of the word DREAM with the letter M – MAKE IT SO.

As a Star Trek fan, I am intrigued at the crew discussions. The Captain asks for suggestions, all give their input, a plan is made. Captain Picard responds, ‘make it so’.

You have sought input, created a plan. It is time to ‘make it so’.

As a life coach I can walk along the path of this dream with you, reminding you of your dream.

ASK

As we continue looking at the word DREAM we come to the letter A. A is for ASK.

ASK for help.  Sure, they may say no, and they have that right.  Just as you do.  You have the right to say no as well.

Sometimes by asking we may find the other person doesn’t even want what we feel is so important to do for them.

ASK questions. ASK for clarification. ASK for help.

You are not created to do everything alone.  It really isn’t all up to you. God never intended you to ‘do it all’.