Category Archives: Development

Journal Prompt – I Will Face My Fear

I love the song “Fear is a Liar” by Zack Williams. (Click to see the official youtube video)

I love saying the words “FEAR is a LIAR!!!” Oh, the emotion I put into that phrase.

I started focusing on calling out and facing fears one by one a couple of years ago. As I made a list of lies I was believing I focused on one at a time.

As one would go away and I would step past it I would move to the next one. Slowly they started melting away. Over time it became easier to notice the lies.

I would love to say I am strong and harbor no lies at this time. But I can’t. I don’t know if I ever will.

But I do know this. For every lie I face down, I am strengthened. Slowly, I find myself noticing the lie before it becomes a belief.

How about you?

What fears are holding you back?
What are they preventing you from doing?

Call one out this week. Declare it a LIE. Face it down. How will you move forward?

Decade-End Journal Prompt

As this year, this decade is coming to a close, I am reminded how far I have come and how I have grown over the past 10 years.

Some steps may be small, but they are steps ahead nonetheless.

I intentionally defied doctor recommendations and fought to quit taking opioid medications even before the big society push to do so. It took over a year, but I did it.

I completed studies at the Professional Christian Coach Institute and obtained my first level of certification, CPLC (Certified Professional Life Coach).

I hosted local workshops on Boundaries using material from Doctors Cloud and Townsend. I also hosted local workshops on Defeating the Lies of Negative Self-Talk with the materials I created.

Journal prompts were posted weekly. I am working on consistency in all areas of online posting.

Other changes were small.

Like making an effort to wear make-up. I don’t usually do more than a foundation so I am like a teenager playing with make-up colors and techniques.

Despite the physical pain, I strive to walk – even a short distance – weekly.

I am working toward a routine of personal time with God.

There is no major life-changing step, yet there is so much to celebrate. Yes, there were failures. I learned from each one and used it as a step toward success.

What are you celebrating as this decade comes to a close? Take a moment to review. Write out your successes, no matter how small. Every step forward is significant.

CELEBRATE IT!!

My Word for 2020 is….

Do you choose a “word of the year”?

I started doing this several years ago.  In 2018 my word was ‘unstoppable’.  It reminded me to keep moving toward my dreams, and that the only one to stop me from pursuing it would be me.  

For 2019 a short phrase was my focus “stay the course”.  I was reminded to keep moving forward on the course God has set me on (Psalm 119:1).  I do not yet know what is at the end of the path, but I know He is with me.

When I look at the year 2020, so many references to vision come to mind.  I argued with myself on the word ‘vision’ because I figure everyone will be using it.

Then I read Romans 12:3 “Be honest in your evaluation of yourself…”  Wow. I have been posting and teaching on stopping the lies of negative self-talk and replacing them with truth. God’s truth.

I am discouraged today, feeling down, telling myself so many lies. Writing this post reminds me I am doing exactly what I teach against.

The word “REFLECTION” came to mind.  I found a picture I use in some of my illustrations of a woman smiling at herself in the mirror.  I added the word REFLECTION at the top and wrote out Romans 12:3.

This is my word for 2020.  REFLECTION.  This year I am reminded to be honest in my evaluation of myself. I will reflect on who God says I am.

It is with this word I will conducting additional “Defeating the Lies of Negative Self-Talk” courses in-person and online.  It is with this word I will begin leading some “Boundaries” courses using material from Doctors Cloud and Townsend.  It is with this word I will be unstoppable, as I stay the course, and reflect honestly on God’s view of me.

I love how I can look back and see the progress God has made in me by reviewing past words.  Each one leads to the next step of my spiritual growth in Him.

What is your word for 2020? Where will it lead you? How can I help you?

Journal Week 47

With Thanksgiving approaching, social media is filled with posts of being grateful.

When I stop to truly look at what I have to be grateful for, my heart rejoices. Sometimes, I truly must stop and look for these things. It is so easy some days to just wallow in pity for something that isn’t the way I want it to be. Then I intentionally seek out those things/people/etc for which I am so thankful.

I am most grateful for.........
because.........

It’s like taking off blinders to see the true picture.

I wonder, what are you grateful for today? What about that makes you thankful?

Spend some time in your journal with a heart of praise and remind yourself what you have to be grateful for.

Journal Prompt -Week 44

For years I have received mixed messages. As a strong woman if I spoke up or stepped out I was criticized for being headstrong, over-confident, bossy.

Then when I didn’t speak out or step us I was being timid.

I couldn’t win. Especially if I was trying to please others. There is no way to please everyone. This then leads to inner confusion.

Something someone said that stropped me in my tracks and changed my perspective was

I cannot please everyone. That was hard enough to learn. But then I heard someone tell about a time she was in a meeting and was told “you are intimidating’. Another responded “is she intimidating or are you intimidated?”

Is she intimidating, or are you intimidated?

I stopped to consider this. I am not responsible for their thoughts or feelings. I only have control over mine. While I will not intentionally set out to hurt someone, just because they are hurt or upset, it doesn’t mean I did something wrong.

This comment made me stop to remember that. Perspective makes all the difference.

What is something someone said that stopped you in your tracks causing you to reconsider your perspective?

Continuing the Journey – Journal Prompt week 43

This week’s journal prompt asks you to think about your favorite book/movie/song.   Why do you like it? What do you feel when you read/watch/hear it?  What makes it special for you? 

I love the movie “It’s A Wonderful Life”. Every year I stop to wonder if I were never born, would there be any difference? Have I made a difference?

Though not a big Adam Sandler fan, I like the movie, “Click”. It reminded me that I often wish I could fast forward through events in my life, but in doing so there is much I would miss.

A recent song I enjoy that brings tears to my eyes every time is “You Say” sung by Lauren Daigle.

How about you? Will you, like me, have trouble narrowing you favorite down to just one?

It’s okay, you aren’t limited.

Journal Prompt – week 41

I find it easy to lose my confidence. It could start from a word someone says, or a glance, a feeling I have done something wrong. Once I let a pin hole of doubt invade by confidence, it continually seeps, like a deflated balloon.

There are so many ways my confidence slowly fills back up, but I never notice what or how. I certainly hold onto those things that deflate me, but haven’t spent much time noticing when my confidence is growing.

Thus, the Journal prompt for this week. “I feel most confident when I….”

I feel most confident when I

I want to encourage you this week to take note of what deflates and inflates your confidence.

If you like, share your thoughts below.

Journal Prompt – Week 40

It is hard to believe we are into week 40 of 2019.

When the year started did you make a list of things you wanted to accomplish this year? How are you doing?

As 2020 draws nearer, consider what will you complete before 2020 begins?

What will it take for you to complete that goal?

What obstacles are in your way? How will you overcome them?

How will you celebrate when you complete that goal?

When Those Around You Tell You ‘Do Not Go’

You have spent time preparing to step into your dream. You have saved, studied, and made the necessary arrangements to move forward.

Then you tell those around you, those whose opinion you respect, expecting to hear words of affirmation and congratulations, only to be told how wrong you are to pursue this.

How do you step past the negativity and into the unknown, with positive self-confidence?

Today on “Tea Time with CoachTA” I talk with Connie Menser of Full Supply Inc. We discuss that moment when she chose to leave her full time career to join the Navigators, and the path where that decision has led.

Journal Prompt, week 39

What do you see when you look in the mirror?

I battle the voices declaring who I am when I look in the mirror. Voices of negativity, of not being good enough, pretty enough, smart enough, loved.

Over time I began to look differently at that view. It was no longer my eyes, but God’s eyes looking back at me.

I am made in His image (Genesis 1:27), His handiwork (Ephesians 2:10). He knew me and loved me before I was created (Psalm 139:13-16). I am a child of God (1 John 3:1), a daughter of the King, a Princess!!

I smile when I put on my plastic $5 party store tiara. I am a princess! This simple item brings me back to child-like faith. I can set aside my tears and fears and fell wrapped in the arms of God. He loves me. I am beautiful. I am enough.

What do you see when you look in the mirror?