Like most of you, I am under a “stay-at-home order”, a guideline seeking to flatten the curve of the COVID-19 pandemic.
For me, life is not very different. My husband works from home already. I write these posts and encourage others from home. We don’t just leave the house at a moment’s notice anymore, and our small group now meets online instead of at my dining table. Other than that, our lives remain the same. I am blessed.
But for many, there is a dramatic change in their lives. Schools are cancelled. Businesses are ordered closed. Families are together under one roof 24/7. The children don’t understand why they can’t go to the playground.
The chaos of all this can definitely bring a person down. It is easy to get stuck in the “I have to” and “I cannot” and “They will not let me” frame of mind.
I have to be with the family 24/7. I have to cook meals, we can’t go anywhere. I have to pick up all day long.
The more you focus on I have to, the more pressure you will feel. Saying this yourself makes it a command, something you don’t want to do. Think of your child when they tell their friends “I cannot play right now, I have to clean my room.” They don’t want to do that and are focusing on what they cannot do because they have to do something else.
PERSPECTIVE MAKES THE DIFFERENCE
By focusing on the feeling of having to do something, you are telling yourself you really don’t have a choice. The truth is, you do. Let’s be honest, you can choose to ignore the stay-at-home order. You can choose not to cook. You can choose to ignore your family.
And like any choice, there are consequences.
So what if you chose to work within the confines. What if, instead of ‘I have to cook so many meals” became “I get to show my children how to make our favorite dish.” What is “I have so much laundry to do” was stated “I get to keep my family clean and clothed. I can even use this time as an opportunity to show them how it is done.” What if “I have to spend the whole day with these people” became “I get to spend time with my family. What fun thing can we do together?”
Another difference perspective makes is in the general atmosphere around you. If you are frustrated and discouraged that you have to be there, that will translate to the others around you.
She looketh well to the ways of her household (Proverbs 31:27). You can help your family get through this. Check your perspective. How is it leading those around you?
You have to practice social distancing, you get to help preserve the health of yourself and others.
You have to stay away from friends and family, you get to use today’s technology to call, text, video chat.
You have to stay inside. You get to do those things you have put off because you didn’t have time: crafts, clean out a closet, play board games with the kids.
Change your Perspective, find unseen Possibilities. Look at the new Pathways that are open. On which will you Proceed.
How are you keeping your perspective during this difficult time? Share thoughts and ideas below.
As the country asks more and more to utilize “Social Distancing” and “Stay at Home” guidelines, many people find themselves feeling isolated.
Thanks to today’s technology, we don’t have to be isolated.
When I was first married, decades ago, we could not make long-distance calls. There were borders. And it cost to call across the border. One home I lived in was along the border. It was long-distance and cost a lot to call the house across the street.
Today, we can call around the world without additional fees.
Along with phone calls, we can make audio and video calls through Facebook, with programs like Zoom, using Google Hangouts, and so much more.
Text messages, that used to cost are now free.
There are so many ways to stay connected with others during this difficult time. Don’t turn ‘stay at home orders’ into ‘total isolation’. Stay connected with others.
BUT……. what about staying connected with yourself? I know there was once a time in my life where I couldn’t handle being alone. Now I am alone in my space a lot and have learned to enjoy my own company.
How about you? How do you handle being physically alone?
Even though I have been home for some time now, I find that I learn more and more about myself.
I am learning I like my own company.
I am being creative.
I enjoy helping and encouraging others. So I am staying in touch and showing them how to do the same.
I am catching up on things I have let slide?
I am reading and studying to keep my mind active, even if my body cannot be.
I don’t like to ask for help, yet sometimes I need to.
If I do not open up to others, they will not open up to me.
What are you learning about yourself during this ‘social distancing’ time?
I encourage you to take a few moments during this week to reflect on what you are learning about yourself right now. What do you like about what you have learned? What do what to change? Will you make an effort to change?
Our world is in a state of chaos right now with the worldwide quarantine due to COVID-19.
Some are excited, they finally get to spend time alone!. Others are fearful, they are alone!
I want to encourage you not to turn quarantine into total isolation. Reach out to others – call, text, video chat, online gatherings, etc.
Isolation can lead to anxiety and depression. Panic and anxiety will increase.
When in the midst of these, your mind is not clear. This greatly affects your decision making. It’s like after an out-patient procedure, you are told not to make any major decisions for 24 hours. Your mind is unclear. Decisions made will not be rational.
I want to encourage you today to find that place within yourself where you can find peace. Where in your life can you find a place of calmness to release the anxiety and panic?
Your journaling prompt for this week asks how you will remain calm and think clearly during this difficult time. Some things to consider would be
who can you share your fears with
what are 3 things/actions that help calm you
who can you reach out when you feel alone
what plans of action can you outline now so that when a situation occurs, you will be able to pull out the plan when you cannot think at that moment
how can you encourage others
who can you call on to encourage you
What other thoughts go through your mind?
I pray for your health, safety, and peace during this difficult time.
Each time I see or hear one of these phrases I am spurred to move forward. I am reminded that I have to get it out of my head, and into action.
Oh, but sometimes getting started is so hard. Why????
I don’t know about you, but for myself, I feel like I am drowning in F*E*A*R. Fear – False Evidence Appearing Real. While the plan looks good, Fear shows me it will fail. Fear even shows me if I succeed, I will do something to make it fail. And I stay in the ‘I want to’ mode.
Yes, I may fail. Failure is not fatal. It is something that did not work. So I learn what did work, and use it to move forward again.
Walt Disney was fired from Hallmark for not being creative enough, then went bankrupt with his own design company before he became the famous creator we know today.
Oprah Winfrey was released from her first TV job because she was “unfit for television”.
There are so many more similar stories. Financial guru Dave Ramsey tells how he became ‘an overnight success after 20 years of trying’.
The one thing each of these people did that I find myself not doing. Each one learned from their experience, applied their new-found wisdom, and continued to move forward.
What is holding you back? What will it take to move from “I want to” to “I will” and “I did”? Where will you go?
Suffering anxiety and stress, I have learned if I have a plan of action, I can sometimes avoid the immediate reaction by having a plan in place.
It’s like planning ahead to get out of the house if there were a fire, making the reaction to seek safety an instinct. If I plan ahead for ‘a way out’ or ‘a response plan’ to a possible stress trigger, I have found I respond instead of react.
Reacting in the moment caused stress and anxiety levels to increase. I cannot think clearly. I often escalate the situation.
If I can remain calm, taking control of the reaction, I can:
see more sides than tunnel vision allows
consider the responses and affect on others
make better decisions
Realizing the need to plan for stress and anxiety I try looking ahead.
STOP! Catch myself.
Take a deep breath, don’t say anything.
If possible, step away for a few moments.
Pray for peace and clarity.
How do you keep ‘peace for the moment’ when stress and anxiety are triggered? What is your plan of action in preparation?