As we get older it is easy to look back and say ‘I should already know this’ or ‘I should have already done that’ or any other phrase discounting our personal successes.
It is important to remember, each step we take, each season of life, every day and every year is a lesson.
We need each of those to move toward the goal.
DON’T STOP! Celebrate the successes along the way and keep moving forward.
Though it seems too far away, and you wonder if you will arrive, the goal is still within reach. It may take more time to get there but get there you will. Remember the story of the tortoise and the hare.
Keep moving toward the goal. Quitting assures you will never get there.
I was watching some little girls getting ready to play house. One little girl caught my attention. She was assigning roles to each player, setting the scene of what they would be doing, and even telling everyone what they would say and do. She had their play time all scripted out.
Watching this, I had to laugh at myself. This is what I try to do every day with every aspect of my life. Like that little girl, I am very detail oriented. I like to know what is going to happen and when. I want to know what everyone is doing and how they are doing it. I want to know how everything comes together in the end. I want a script in my life.
I don’t like uncertainty. Uncertainty leads to chaos!
Yet, life is full of uncertainty. I like Bob Goff’s comment because it makes me stop for a moment to reflect back. It was in moments of uncertainty that we grow. It is in moments of chaos that we find our own peace. And when I look back, it is in those moments where I find a strength I did not know was there.
Life is uncertain. Embrace it. Write the title of that chapter later.
I was intrigued when this quote came across in a recent google search. It truly describes ‘creativity’. When I work with any craft project there is a lot of experimentation. Will this work? what if I work it that direction instead? That doesn’t look right, how should I change it? Oops, let’s rip that out and try again.
I love the final description most – having fun. As a perfectionist I struggle with making something perfect. I was so embarrassed after giving a shawl with a row of crosses and cancer ribbons when I looked a picture I look of the shawl. It showed one cross made incorrectly. I had already given it to my friend. I looked it over and never saw the mistake, until I looked at the picture. The error was blaring – to me. I allowed that mistake (a significant part of creativity) to take away the experience of fun and joy I had in creating the shawl.
I have to remind myself there is no perfection in creativity. There is
It started like any other day. I woke, got dressed, made plans for the day. I felt good about what I intended to accomplish.
Then I did a quick glance through Facebook. I saw others report on their successes, the way everything was going so well for them.
I stopped to look around at the stack of bills, the clutter in the corner, the unfinished crochet project. Suddenly everything seemed like I must be doing something wrong. Those other people are doing much better at this life thing than I am.
Then I caught myself. I reminded myself people are only showing what they want me to see. Just like I do.
There is no comparison. I am living their life. I have to live only mine. And mine will be joyful if I celebrate my successes, rather than compare to the successes of others.
Their wins are their wins. I can celebrate their wins without diminishing my own.
My wins are mine. I will celebrate mine. Even the win of my 60th birthday!
I was talking with a friend recently. We were reminiscing about how when we were younger people who were 60 looked and acted so old.
We sure don’t feel that way now.
What changed? We did.
In every circumstance we see and react according to information at hand at the time. That phrase ‘at the time’ has become a true eye opener to me. When I look back at things in my life I sometimes cringe recalling how I handled them. Then I am reminded of those 3 words ‘at the time’. You see, ‘at the time’ there were details unknown to me, therefore I was unable to include them in my decisions.
It is true, hindsight is 20/20. All I can do when I look back is know that I did the best I could, at the time, with the information I had at the time.
And I can learn from each situation as well. Every event, every decision, every action has taught me something. Something I have held on to and learned from, and use in the next situation. With each one, I grow.
Over the years, my friend has changed. I have changed. Because of changes, I have lost friendships and relationships. God has never changed. He is the same yesterday, today, and tomorrow (Hebrews 13:8).
In each situation, I am aware of one thing. God was with me. He sustained me. He carried me. Even if I didn’t know it ‘at the time’. I may not always feel His presence, but that doesn’t change the fact He is present.